Posted in Food

Flourless Brownie Muffins

So, I decided to try Flourless Brownie Muffins as a healthy alternative to regular brownies and muffins. 2 of my 3 kids liked them, my husband said they were okay and I thought they tasted like a regular cupcake. Since I am in charge of baked goods for our concession stand for basketball in the coming weeks, I wanted to make healthy alternatives for our players and parents.

I got the recipe from Beachbody on Demand as I was looking at different recipes to try. I did a little off the recipe as I didn’t have certain items. The above recipe said it would make 12 servings. My calories are based on 21 servings. Below is what I used:

1- 19oz can of Progresso Chick Peas

3 large eggs

1/3 cup of Aunt Jemina Maple Syrup

1/3 cup of Unsweetened Cocoa

1/2 tsp of baking soda

3 tablespoons of Coconut Oil

1/3 cup of chocolate chips

Nutritional Facts:

Calories: 78

Fat: 4.1g

Saturated: 2.6g

Poly: 0.1g

Mono- 0.1g

Trans: 0

Cholesterol: 26.4mg

Sodium: 76.2mg

Potassium: 10mg

Carbs: 8.8g

Fiber: 1.3g

Sugars: 3.9g

Protein: 2.2g

Vitamin A: 0.9%, C: 0%, Calcium: 0.7%, Iron: 3.5%


Posted in News

My take on Harvey Weinstein

If you’ve been living under a rock these last few months, allegations came out against Harvey Weinstein and a slew of other Hollywood directors about sexual misconduct among actors and actresses. This is what started the #metoo campaign. There was a lot of support for the men and women who came forth and also a lot of backlash wondering why it took so long for them to come forward.

As a fellow survivor, I understand why these men and women didn’t come forward. For a lot of them, it could’ve made or broke their careers. In today’s day and age of technology and social media, it is easier for this information to come out.

In my case, it was the early 90’s and this sort of thing was taboo. Luckily I wasn’t assaulted but I was abused.  I was 8 when this happened and the system failed me as a child. Granted, I give Children & Youth the benefit of the doubt as this stuff is not easy to handle. Especially when you have 2 people giving conflicting results. In my case, they couldn’t determine who was lying and who was telling the truth. That can be said in this day and age. What everyone needed was proof. At 8, I didn’t think about writing down everything that happened. My mindset was he was doing this because he loved me. In reality, it is all about control, especially when it’s a younger woman and an older male. My abuse went on for 7 years before I was able to do anything about it. The abuser: my father.

I was 15 when I put my foot down and put a stop to it. When my parents divorced, I stayed with him on the weekends. At first, everything was fine, we got along and hung out with his neighbors. It wasn’t until one night he told me something disturbing that I did for him while under the influence of marijuana. I didn’t remember anything and was disgusted to think that something happened. That’s when the floodgates opened and I went all Hannibal Lecter on him. I went through the long laundry list of things he did to me, of course, him denying everything. He gave me the phone to call the police but instead I ran to a friend’s house that lived around the corner until my mother could pick me up. That was my final straw to go back to the police and put him away.

For a lot of women, facing their accuser is a terrifying idea. I couldn’t imagine if I was in the public eye and having to do this. It takes a lot of support and courage to sit through and recall all the horrible things that happen. He was in jail on an unrelated charge so to see him sit there shaking his head every time I went into detail was a knife digging into my back.

Since statue of limitations had passed, there wasn’t much they could do. I got a restraining order for 6 months and he had to stay 500ft away from me. That fear went with me every time I went to a gas station, shopping center or grocery store. Luckily, I never had to see him again my uncle got married in 2006. We were cordial but if I didn’t have to be near him, I wasn’t. I only saw him a handful of times after that and haven’t seen him since.

As I had kids, I thought about forgiving him and letting him get to know his grandchildren. Then I think back to everything that happened, what he put me and my family through, and the destruction that was left in the aftermath. Not only does it hurt the victim, it hurts everyone around them. I applaud Harvey’s wife to separate from him while this is going on. I couldn’t imagine being with someone that did stuff like this to countless others, thinking it was okay because of who they were.

If you have a hard time believing someone that they say something happened, imagine yourself in their shoes. Imagine the courage it takes, the backlash that occurs and the loss of family and friends. Abuse or assault should never be tolerated and if it happens to you, speak up. It doesn’t matter if you are a child, young adult or an adult. Have a support system intact to help you through, go to the police and bring your abuser to justice.

Even after my father remarried, I don’t know if he ever touched or hurt another person again. It sickens me to think if he did and when these stories come up in the news, it makes me go back to this. I was a lot stronger than a lot of women, even at 8 or 15. The law may not be on your side but if enough happens, someday you’ll be able to sleep in peace knowing your accuser had what was coming to them.

Posted in Fitness

Getting Fit for the New Year

If you’re like me, when it comes to the new year, your resolution is to lose weight or get healthy. Every year since I was 18, this was my resolution. When I graduated high school, I was 180lbs, engaged and starting college. Even at this weight, I thought I was fat. As I got comfortable in my relationship, started eating and not working out, the weight slowly crept up. When it got closer to my wedding in May 2006, I remember the seamstress telling me to stop losing weight because every fitting she had to bring the dress in. At that point, I was exercising 5 days a week and watching my eating. I was probably around the 200lb mark. When I look at my wedding pictures, I look healthy, not fat.

Fast forward a year and a half, I was pregnant with my first child. I was 220lbs which slowing crept up to 280, thinking I could eat whatever I wanted. My weight slowly dropped back to 254 when I started working out 5 days a week at the gym and 2 days a week with a trainer. I was ready to lose the weight. I kept track of my calories, ate whatever I wanted and slowly lost 35lbs. At 219, I felt strong, fit, and happy to see my reflection.

Lo and behold, I got pregnant with my 2nd child. I stopped working out and ate what I wanted.  The weight crept up to 265 when I gave birth. Since I was breastfeeding, I figured that gave me a reason to eat what I wanted since I was burning more calories. She nursed for 2 years and my weight went down to 240. As soon as she stopped shortly after her 2nd birthday, I found out I was pregnant with my 3rd.

With my 3rd pregnancy, I was determined not to gain a lot of weight. I watched what I ate and started to moderately exercise. I only gained 35lbs with him. He was a 10lb baby so I lost at least 15lbs after I got home. That weight found its way back to 275lb when I decided to start taking action. I wasn’t going to wait 4 years to get healthy again like I did with my first.

On September 18th, I decided enough was enough. I wasn’t making any more excuses why I couldn’t work out. My excuse was mostly, I didn’t have time, which a lot of people can relate to. I decided to make time, usually when my husband came home. At first, I thought I can do this than after a few days it started slipping away. I wasn’t pushing myself like I was before, making excuses, I don’t have the time or I’m too tired.

I’ve always used MyFitnessPal to log my calories and every few months I would adjust my goal. Some days I would go under and others I was over. I started researching programs to do that would keep my attention and help push me. I had used DailyBurn in the past but my excuse was always I’m too tired to do this or didn’t push myself to the extent I needed. We have a Wii so I was doing Just Dance, making use of the Cardio or Cheerleader Extreme Sweat Sessions. After a few weeks, I grew tiresome of it and my motivation started lacking.

After checking Instagram and seeing other peoples progress, I started looking at Beachbody on Demand. The last few years I’ve always checked the program out, afraid to make the commitment. Almost 2 weeks ago I decided to make the jump and purchased the program. It has been the best decision I’ve made in a long time. I started Clean Week to get me warmed up, flexible and used to squats, lunges, and weights. After Clean Week, I was going to jump into 21 Day Fix. There will be a separate blog on the program after completion sharing before/after pictures along with measurements.  I am a week in and feeling good, excited for the next week. I’ve already made plans to what I want to do next as they are always coming out with new programs to follow and meal plans.

Here’s to jump-starting my New Years’ resolution so come January, I have a fresh start to kicking more weight, becoming stronger and loving myself.


Posted in Shopping

Happy Thanksgiving/Black Friday

I hope everyone had a nice Thanksgiving and didn’t go too crazy this Black Friday. We had a nice spread at my sister’s this year, while I made cheesecake, cherry pie and brought the mashed potatoes. After all, was said and done, we have turkey to last us at least a month. We’re trying to think of different ways to use the leftovers. With winter approaching, the safe bet would be to make up a lot of soup to freeze. Once I get a good recipe, I’ll post to share with others.

If you were out shopping for Black Friday deals, I salute you. There is nothing that I need that desperately that I’m risking sleep or death to get. This year, as years previous, I’ll be checking out the deals in the comfort of my pajamas. Plus I can get cash back from Ebates or BeFrugal and pick up at a store if shipping is too much.

If you are looking for Bar or Wine accessories, check out Fair Treasures. Sign up for a 25% off coupon on your order. Shipping is free! If you are shopping for Home Decor, Apparel or Jewelry, check out Fairly Sided and use coupon code BFCM17 to save 10% off $50 or more. This discount runs out on Monday, November 27th at 11:59pm. Sign up to get reminders of upcoming sales, discounts, and new products. 95% of the products ship throughout the United States and Canada. The other 5% ship internationally for free.

I myself have to brave the traffic and shoppers today to get groceries so wish me luck! For those still shipping, go get em!


Posted in Fitness, Food

Peanut Butter Chocolate Chip Protein Shake

These past few weeks, this has been my go-to after workout shake. Depending on how much ice I put in, it also makes a great milkshake. Every time I make it, I have, at least, 2 of the kids waiting to get the leftovers. I’m lucky to finish the whole thing by myself, but it’s also a nice treat for them. Below is the recipe I use. Since this is usually my lunch as well, I double up on the protein.

Unsweetened dry cocoa powder- 1/2 cup

Friendly Farms (Aldis) Unsweetened Original Almondmilk- 1 cup

Muscle Milk Vanilla Creme Protein Powder- 2 scoops

Peter Pan Simply Ground Honey Roast or Original- 2 tablespoons

Chocolate chips- 1/4 cup

Nutritional Facts per 1 Serving

Calories- 668

Fat- 36.4g

Saturated Fat- 10.5g

Polyunsaturated- 2.7g

Monounsaturated- 9.5g

Trans- 0g

Cholesterol- 20mg

Sodium- 419mg

Potassium- 1,415.3mg

Carbs- 59.9g

Fiber- 22.9g

Sugars- 17.8g

Protein- 48.4g

Vitamin A- 40%, C- 30%, Calcium- 100.5%, Iron- 67.1%

These numbers will change depending on the type of milk or peanut butter you use. This has a net carb ratio of 37g (59.9-22.9).

I am full after I drink this, usually around 1-1:30 in the afternoon as dinner is around 4 or 5. If you go lighter, this can be a great alternative as an evening treat. IMG_8087

Posted in Uncategorized

Let’s get Real!

Thank you for checking out my first blog post. I’m a beginner so please be gentle. In the upcoming posts, I will talk all things family, love, food, fitness, relationships, whatever comes to mind or whatever happens on any given day. If you read my about section, I will never promote something that I haven’t personally tried or believed in. I will be honest about shortcomings or things that have happened in the past. I will talk current events, pop culture or anything that might bother me, which might be all the time. Come along on my journey! It will be one hell of a ride.

Posted in Fitness

Anti Cellulite Vacuum Cupping Massagers


As anyone that follows my social media, I am very vocal about my health and fitness regimens, which I’ll get to in another post. I wanted to post a review of these anti-cellulite body cupping massagers. You may have seen these ads on Facebook where it helps to reduce cellulite in your prone areas; thighs, stomach, arms, etc. After seeing a few of these ads and watching the videos, I decided to order some. I ordered 2, one of which I use in the shower and the other stays near my bed. At first, I was skeptical but once I started using it daily, I felt the difference. You can use full suction, where it may hurt when you move in circles or up and down, leaving red marks. I started off lightly to see how much pressure I could take. I used mostly in the shower, using the water as a lubricant to help with my stomach and inner thighs. After a week or so, I could feel the difference. My legs felt smoother and I didn’t my thighs didn’t rub against each other as much.

My first true test was when a cyst formed on my left inner thigh, the size of a ping-pong ball. I used baby oil to lather the area and applied full suction to that particular area, going in circles then up and down. I stopped every few minutes to spread the skin before I went another round. After 1 day, the cyst was gone.

These work great, not only for cellulite but also tight areas where you might exercise. For me, it was my upper thighs on leg day or after a period of squats and lunges. For tight areas, I recommend applying full pressure to help release tension.

I use these every few days, either in the shower or while watching TV in bed.

I hope this review helps anyone that may have been skeptical in purchasing these.

I was not paid to review this item.